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  • Every love story is a ghost story

    David Foster Wallace, The Pale King
    • love
    • melancholy
    • euphony
  • Love without ownership

    He tried to deal with the concept of love as distinct from possession, and couldn't separate them...if anything could help him to understand, it was the desert.

    ...He followed the movement of the birds, trying to read something into it. Maybe these desert birds could explain to him the meaning of love without ownership.

    Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
    • love
    • ownership
  • Someone in the world awaits you

    When he looked into her dark eyes, and saw that her lips were poised between a laugh and silence, he learned the most important part of the language that all the world spoke—the language that everyone on earth was capable of understanding in their heart. It was love.

    ...He had been told by his parents and grandparents that he must fall in love and really know a person before becoming committed. But maybe people who felt that way had never learned the universal language. Because, when you know that language, it's easy to understand that someone in the world awaits you.

    Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
    • love
  • And thus the heart will break

    They mourn, but smile at length; and, smiling, mourn:
    The tree will wither long before it fall:
    The hull drives on, though mast and sail be torn;
    The roof-tree sinks, but moulders on the hall
    In massy hoariness; the ruined wall
    Stands when its wind-worn battlements are gone;
    The bars survive the captive they enthral;
    The day drags through though storms keep out the sun;
    And thus the heart will break, yet brokenly live on.

    Lord Byron, Childe Harold's Pilgrimage
    1. ​​Scenery​​
    2. ​​A little act of hope​​
    • time
    • love
    • melancholy
    • i
  • The productions of time

    Eternity is in love with the productions of time.

    William Blake, Proverbs of Hell
    poets.org
    • time
    • love
  • You are what you love

    Donald: I loved Sarah, Charles. It was mine, that love. I owned it. Even Sarah didn't have the right to take it away. I can love whoever I want.

    Charlie: But she thought you were pathetic.

    Donald: That was her business, not mine. You are what you love, not what loves you. That's what I decided a long time ago.

    Charlie Kaufman, Adaptation.
    • love
    • melancholy
  • We need an object for our affections

    We need an object for our affections, something identifiable on which to focus attention. But in a typical office building, to what can we attribute the all-pervasive comfort of 70ºF, 50% relative humidity? Most likely, we would simply take it all for granted. When thermal comfort is a constant condition, constant in both space and time, it becomes so abstract that it loses its potential to focus attention.

    Lisa Heschong, Thermal Delight in Architecture
    1. ​​It's cold outside, but this room is quite cozy​​
    • love

    "We are also unlikely to relate our thermal well-being to anything in particular unless there is an awareness at some level that an object or place does indeed have a thermal function. Radiant hot water pipes embedded in the ceiling may do an admirable job of keeping us warm and comfortable, but there is no way to sense directly that the ceiling has a thermal function. The lack of specific clues makes it hard to relate to the ceiling in the same way we relate to, say, the hearth."

  • The people we love

    The objects we describe as beautiful are versions of the people we love.

    Alain de Botton, The Architecture of Happiness
    • love
    • objects
  • For their own concealed passion

    Sharing the experience of a pleasant thermal setting may add an extra bonus to courtship. The gentle and cooling breeze of the southern porch swing provided a happy excuse for a couple to sit quietly together. A more technological version might be seen in the type of car that the teenagers of the 1950s considered ideal for a hot date—the convertible. Slightly more erotic, perhaps, were the atrium and green houses that were favorite settings for romance in Victorian England. The lovers could get lost among the leaves of the exotic tropical plants and possibly mistake the hot, humid atmosphere for their own concealed passion.

    Lisa Heschong, Thermal Delight in Architecture
    • love
  • Perhaps one did not want to be loved so much as to be understood.

    George Orwell, 1984
    • love
    • understanding
  • The significance of love's burden

    There is an Arabic saying that the soul travels at the pace of a camel. While most of our self is led by the strict demands of timetables and diaries, our soul, the seat of the heart, trails nostalgically behind, burdened by the weight of memory. If every love affair adds a certain weight to the camel's load, then we can expect the soul to slow according to the significance of love's burden.

    Alain de Botton, On Love
    • memory
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    • nostalgia
  • We outgrow love

    We outgrow love like other things
    And put it in the drawer,
    Till it an antique fashion shows
    Like costumes grandsires wore.

    Emily Dickinson, The Collected Poems of Emily Dickinson
    • love
    • melancholy
  • I marshmallow you

    Then I noticed a small plate of complimentary marshmallows near Chloe's elbow and it suddenly seemed clear that I didn't love Chloe so much as marshmallow her. What it was about a marshmallow that should suddenly have accorded so perfectly with my feelings toward her, I will never know, but the word seemed to capture the essence of my amorous state with an accuracy that the word 'love', weary with overuse, simply could not aspire to.

    From then on, love was, for Chloe and me at least, no longer simply love, it was a sugary, puffy object a few millimeters in diameter that melts deliciously in the mouth.

    Alain de Botton, On Love
    • love
  • 100% perfect

    And through their unremitting efforts they were able to acquire once again the knowledge and feeling that qualified them to return as full-fledged members of society...

    Time passed with shocking swiftness, and soon the boy was thirty-two, the girl thirty.

    One beautiful April morning, in search of a cup of coffee to start the day, the boy was walking from west to east, while the girl, intending to send a special-delivery letter, was walking from east to west, both along the same narrow street in the Harajuku neighborhood of Tokyo. They passed each other in the very center of the street. The faintest gleam of their lost memories glimmered for the briefest moment in their hearts. Each felt a rumbling in the chest. And they knew:

    She is the 100% perfect girl for me.
    He is the 100% perfect boy for me.

    But the glow of their memories was far too weak, and their thoughts no longer had the clarity of fourteen years earlier. Without a word, they passed each other, disappearing into the crowd. Forever.

    Haruki Murakami, On Seeing the 100% Perfect Girl One Beautiful April Morning
    • love
  • That delicate and complex instrument

    Could that delicate and complex instrument that lies in the human breast ever really produce a reading that was absolutely clear and truthful, like a clock’s hands pointing to numbers on its dial?

    Natsume Sōseki, Kokoro
    • love
    • truth
  • When it goes wrong

    Kris: It's not my fault when it goes wrong.

    Jeff: Yes it is.

    Shane Carruth, Upstream Color
    • love
    • disaster
  • Exploiting emotion

    There are no shortcuts to the investment of time and care in friendship and human bonding, and it is fraudulent to pretend otherwise. When human loneliness becomes a source of income for others through devices, we'd better stop and think a bit about the place of human needs in the real world of technology.

    Ursula M. Franklin, The Real World of Technology
    • love
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    • exploitation
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  • Upstream Color

    A Film by Shane Carruth
    www.imdb.com
    1. ​​The same material as the sun​​
    2. ​​When it goes wrong​​
    3. ​​Upstream Color Original Soundtrack​​
    1. ​​Walden​​
    2. ​​Extract (n)​​
    3. ​​Authorisation vs. Consent​​
    • connection
    • cycles
    • love
  • Childe Harold's Pilgrimage

    A Poem by Lord Byron
    www.gutenberg.org
    1. ​​And thus the heart will break​​
    2. ​​Words which are things​​
    3. ​​There is a pleasure in the pathless woods​​
    • love
    • nature
    • loneliness
    • melancholy
  • Narcissus and Goldmund

    A Novel by Herman Hesse
    www.goodreads.com
    1. ​​Duality​​
    2. ​​Fear of death​​
    3. ​​Pain and joy​​
    4. ​​Suddenly the letter has a tail​​
    5. ​​All that is beautiful and lovely​​
    1. ​​My own beauty reflected​​
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    • life
  • The Alchemist

    A Novel by Paulo Coelho
    en.wikipedia.org
    1. ​​My own beauty reflected​​
    2. ​​Thicker books​​
    3. ​​To find God in the seminary​​
    4. ​​What others want them to be​​
    5. ​​The soul of the universe​​
    1. ​​The alchemists in their mixings​​
    • destiny
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    • adventure
    • exploration
  • 500 Days of Summer

    A Film by Marc Webb, Scott Neustadter & Michael H. Weber
    www.imdb.com
    1. ​​I think you should look again​​
    2. ​​It just wasn't me you were right about​​
    • love
    • melancholy
    • hope
  • the speed of God

    An Article by Alan Jacobs
    blog.ayjay.org

    [Andy Crouch] quotes the Japanese theologian Kosuke Koyama saying that “the speed of God” is three miles an hour because that was the speed at which Jesus moved through his world. So maybe, and I think this is one of the chief burdens of Andy’s book, what makes the most sense for us is to try whenever possible to move at the speed of God – and in that way refuse the offer of superpowers.

    Of course, this dovetails with a lot of things people have been writing lately about slowness, but what I like about Andy’s book is that it specifies why we can find ourselves responding so warmly to the possibility of slowness. What happens when we seek superpowers, and especially super-speed, is the sacrifice of what I want to call our proper powers – the powers through the exercise of which we (heart-soul-mind-strength) flourish in love.

    1. ​​The brain is wider than the sky​​
    • religion
    • love
    • euphony
    • slowness
  • 155-217-155

    A Website by Nick Trombley
    155-217-155.netlify.app
    Screenshot of 155-217-155.com on 2020-08-26 at 2.29.20 PM.png
    1. ​​Haiku 2018–2019​​
    • poetry
    • love
    • zen
    • haiku
    • microsites
  • Trust beyond reason

    An Article by David R. MacIver
    notebook.drmaciver.com

    In this sense, trust is a polarizing strategy, and it's one that is important to apply early on in the relationship before someone becomes important to you. If you trust someone excessively and it goes badly, but they don't matter to you, you can just kick them to the curb. In general, trusting someone at a level that seems slightly excessive for their level of importance to you will help you sort people in your life who you want to be more important to you than they are from those who you want to be less important than they are.

    And it does need to be excessive. It needs to be trust beyond reason. Not beyond all reason, but somewhat beyond what currently seems reasonable. If it is not, then unless they are prepared to take the first move, you will never find the signs you need to move to a higher level of mutual trust.

    Sometimes this will go badly, but you need to be able to try bad things.

    • trust
    • love
    • friendship
  • The mortifying ordeal of being known

    A Fragment by Tim Kreider
    opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com

    Years ago a friend of mine had a dream about a strange invention; a staircase you could descend deep underground, in which you heard recordings of all the things anyone had ever said about you, both good and bad. The catch was, you had to pass through all the worst things people had said before you could get to the highest compliments at the very bottom. There is no way I would ever make it more than two and a half steps down such a staircase, but I understand its terrible logic: if we want the rewards of being loved we have to submit to the mortifying ordeal of being known.

    • love
    • humanity
  • Which Books You Truly Love

    An Essay by Salman Rushdie
    www.nytimes.com

    I believe that the books and stories we fall in love with make us who we are, or, not to claim too much, the beloved tale becomes a part of the way in which we understand things and make judgments and choices in our daily lives. A book may cease to speak to us as we grow older, and our feeling for it will fade. Or we may suddenly, as our lives shape and hopefully increase our understanding, be able to appreciate a book we dismissed earlier; we may suddenly be able to hear its music, to be enraptured by its song.

    • reading
    • love
    • identity
    • life
  • All There Is

    A Song by Gregory Alan Isakov

    And I lied to you when I knocked upon your door.
    See, I was nowhere near your neighborhood.

    • love
    • melancholy
  • The life and death of an internet onion

    A Website by Laurel Schwulst
    the-life-and-death-of-an-internet-onion.com
    Screenshot of the-life-and-death-of-an-internet-onion.com on 2020-08-08 at 8.52.57 PM.png

    In her piece "A drop of love in the cloud" (2018), artist Fei Liu writes about the like/heart button as a flattening affordance of giving affirmation and love. The text-editor provides a much more expressive input.

    But even people who can't communicate well because of language barriers can express love through actions, like cooking food. Can we create other "love inputs" that might allow us to "reach across the chasm of a seamless signal"?

    What is expressing "real" love or affirmation about? Is it about effort, thoughtfulness, generosity, something else? What might a thoughtful or generous interface feel or behave like?

    • love
    • communication
    • ux
    • www
    • microsites

See also:
  1. melancholy
  2. time
  3. friendship
  4. loneliness
  5. euphony
  6. religion
  7. life
  8. microsites
  9. memory
  10. nostalgia
  11. objects
  12. i
  13. truth
  14. disaster
  15. exploitation
  16. solitude
  17. nature
  18. connection
  19. cycles
  20. communication
  21. ux
  22. www
  23. poetry
  24. zen
  25. haiku
  26. understanding
  27. humanity
  28. reading
  29. identity
  30. trust
  31. slowness
  32. hope
  33. destiny
  34. adventure
  35. exploration
  36. ownership
  1. Alain de Botton
  2. Paulo Coelho
  3. Lord Byron
  4. Shane Carruth
  5. Lisa Heschong
  6. Haruki Murakami
  7. Natsume Sōseki
  8. Ursula M. Franklin
  9. David Foster Wallace
  10. Herman Hesse
  11. Emily Dickinson
  12. Laurel Schwulst
  13. Nick Trombley
  14. George Orwell
  15. Gregory Alan Isakov
  16. Tim Kreider
  17. Salman Rushdie
  18. Charlie Kaufman
  19. William Blake
  20. David R. MacIver
  21. Alan Jacobs
  22. Marc Webb
  23. Scott Neustadter
  24. Michael H. Weber